The crowd awaits. He feels frightened, everyone’s staring at him. He mounts the stage, picks up the paper but fails to comprehend the words. He stutters while he speaks causing uproar of murmurings within his audience. He had studied for this day, day and night he did. He was all set and ready to deliver but on seeing these strange faces, he felt distorted and totally discouraged and felt like he has lost all hope. Then, his father walked up to him and said; ”You can do this, I believe in you.” He hugged his father, exhaled, and walked back to the microphone. And off he went an impeccable speech he delivers…”Self Belief”
This article is ”launched” as I’d say to help prevent you from: disheartening moments where you almost feel like becoming invisible, to instances where you become glad that you actually did it, and wish the moment lasted longer.
But first of all you need to know the importance of Self Belief before we proceed.
Self-Belief is important. A lot of people fail to believe in them self because others didn’t believe in them (Like the experience above). You need to know that ‘No one can make you feel Inferior without your full consent,” according to Eleanor Roosevelt. But if you’re just practicing the art of self-belief, this is probably where self-doubt comes in prior to your previous accommodation of them.
You must have often seen yourself asking questions like ”Can I really do this?” ”Can I actually succeed?” And all forms of self-doubts begin to creep in. Now, I consider it normal to have these thoughts because you have to experience a setback for a comeback. But rather, make sure these thoughts have limits and they do not affect your method of operation.
These are the two personalities of a Human.
Outer Self: As humans, we tend to spend so much of our time focusing on our outer selves (The outward us) then our Inner us. That is what others think about us. Subconsciously, we always look beyond our shoulders, comparing ourselves with other people, almost forgetting to make the inner us feel happy too. The outer self is a combination of our outward appearance, manner of approach, behavior and its relatives.
Inner Self: This is the person no one ever sees. It’s regarded as being your true self outside speculating eyes. These are your feelings, desires, habits, likes, dislikes that we shy away from just to get the acceptance in the society. The path to unique leadership is getting rid of this mask.
Remember to create a life that feels good from the inside, not one that just looks good from the outside.
“Follow Your Dreams, Believe In Yourself And Never Give-Up”
Put these in mind on embarking on a journey to constantly practice self-belief:
You need to combat with the inner negative voice: When embarking on the journey of life, at some point, you’ll definitely come in contact with challenges that are seemingly beyond your abilities speaking from the physical eye. There seem to be a voice inside of you that keeps telling you, ‘you can’t make it’ or ‘it’s not possible’ and lots of them. You need to pause, listen to that little negative voice for a moment and say to it, ”That’s not my Voice!” And afterwards, begin to challenge everything it says.
Identify and develop your strengths: You probably know about the Incredible Hulk? Or perhaps, the Flash? These are famous super heroes well known for their incredibly great abilities. But do you know you have yours too? I don’t mean insane speed or similar powers; I mean your positive characteristics? Yes, you do. Write down your positive characteristics the ones you have and probably wish to have they could be dignity, generosity, meekness anything. You’d be surprised how that’ll prime up your sub-consciousness.
Define Your Model: What type of person do you look up to? Does he define your personality? You choose a model that motivates you positively in everything he does. And can also rekindle your zeal into being like him/her to make a positive impact on the younger generation.
Focus: All these can’t be accomplished if you lack focus. Be extremely dedicated to developing the art of self-belief by being focused. Self-Belief doesn’t mean you see yourself being as perfect as you are but rather seeing yourself as what you’ll become. Knowing your weakness and acknowledging them as well as improving on your strengths. Don’t wait for people to start believing in you, you need to make the first step. It isn’t about people, it’s all about you! Learn to not see setbacks as the end of the world instead to see them as a new beginning to new possibilities. As a friend said, ”As your Self- Believe grows, people around you begin to believe in you more, too”
Acknowledge your weaknesses and commend your strengths. Do your self-good by believing in yourself. Put all of these into practice and the next time you face such large crowd or something similar, just go for it and believe in yourself!
Today’s wonderful post is by our guest Lawson Annie Elijah from Nigeria. Do check out his blog at http://www.positiveimpartation.com.ng/ Thank You Lawson, for this inspirational post about Self-Belief.